Bikini season is fast approaching, and you’re seriously considering
a “Mommy Makeover.” Or, you’ve come to the conclusion
that you’re done having children, so now you’re dreaming about
getting that breast augmentation you’ve been wanting since you gave
birth to your first child. Perhaps you’re in your late 30s and your
age has finally caught up to you and now you’re planning on getting
Botox and dermal fillers.
As you contemplate which cosmetic procedure you want to have done, suddenly,
your mind is filled with your children’s possible responses: “What
happened to your face Mommy?” or “Why do you look like Barbie
in that bikini top?” or “Your
face looks like it’s frozen!” or our personal favorite, “That’s
not my Mommy.” How do you react to your children’s responses?
What do you say?
When You Thought Your Tweaks Were Minor
Often, patients come in to have Botox and dermal fillers, lip augmentation,
rhinoplasty, a tummy tuck, or a
breast augmentation and to them, the tweaks are minor, and hardly noticeable to the untrained
eye, except for the fact that they look “younger” and better
than they did before. But, to a young child who looks lovingly upon their
mother (or father) every day, the tweaks may stand out from a block away.
What’s subtle to a patient, may be major to a young child!
Are you morally obligated to tell your children the truth? When they’re
young, you don’t have to tell them the truth, but as they get older,
it will be harder to get away with a lie, especially if your child is
a teenage girl. Whatever route you decide to take, make sure that you
don’t communicate that you hate any part of your body because you
don’t want them to lose confidence in their own self-image as they
What advice can we give you? What options do you have? Surely, no one knows
your children better than you, so you’ll have to decide how you’re
going to handle the situation.
1. You can lie. If your breasts are wrapped in bandages you can say, “Mommy had a
booboo, but she’s all better now.” You don’t need to
explain breast implants to a three or four-year-old. Or, if you had Botox,
you can say, “My magic cream has made my skin look beautiful.”
2. You can take a trip. Let’s say you have an ample chest, but without a bra it’s obvious
that you breastfed three children. You want to have a breast lift and
augmentation, but you’re not interested in sharing your experience
with your children at this point in time. In that case, you can take off
for a spa weekend or a short vacation so your children won’t have
to watch you go through the recovery process. In clothes, they may not
notice the difference anyway.
3. Be honest with them. A lot of patients decide to tell their children the truth, especially when
the children are past sixth grade. However, being open about “having
work done” does not mean you have to share all of the graphic details
– because it can scare them. If you’ll be recovering at home,
it’s a good idea to prepare them for what’s to come, such
as bandages, bruising, bed rest, and pain. Just don’t forget to
reassure them that you’ll be okay and it’s all a part of the
We hope this information helps. If you are considering getting a cosmetic
procedure done in Oxnard or Westlake Village, we invite you to contact
our office so you can
schedule a consultation with our
board-certified plastic surgeon, Dr. Yuly Gorodisky.